One at a time, I diligently pulled the push pins out of the sides of my cubicle walls. I was revered in this office for the colors and personality that my tiny space contained. Photos of my family and friends, doodles and drawings, flowers perpetually perched on my desk. Figurines, model cars, books, lamp light […]Read more "Human Resources"
my cousin and I find the body of a bat on the ground near the old church demolition stones my cousin and I listen to a radio show about butchering We eat venison and white rice shrimp sautéed in so much butter The butcher reads a story she eats less meat The plane in the […]Read more "never never never"
image by Stockarch. Gina and her friends were already in the kitchen, sharing a bottle of Chardonnay they had brought over. “Hey, Frannie,” Gina said, her toned arms opened wide. Her bronze summer skin glistened in the florescent light of the kitchen. Her jeans were skinny, her tank top tight. “Hey Gina’” I said, and […]Read more "The Girlfriend After You Is Going To Be Easy"
I cherish my children. Even when they drive me crazy. Even when I simultaneously wish for more and less time in the day. Even when I am up all night, unable to sleep because they cause me so much angst. They were different when they were babies. Once they got a little older, once they […]Read more "Is This Successful Motherhood – Raising Kids Who Want to Leave Me?"
Edith Chandler Kinder was born on a small farm in the woods of northern Minnesota in 1923. At the age of eighty-three, Edith, my grandmother-in-law, politely allowed me to interview her, slightly flummoxed as to why I should care. For over an hour, she answered my questions in her lilting, singing voice, often resting fingers […]Read more "Edith"
photo by dozeneggs.com My friend @megdonohue just tweeted, “‘Nonworking mother’ is an oxymoron. Show me a mother, and I’ll show you a woman working her ass off.” I wish my first thought had been: “Ha! I agree, great one Meg!” But, I’ll admit it, instead it was: “How did she have time to be funny […]Read more "Jealousy Judgment and Motherhood"
Unhealthy family dynamics revolve around the expectations they place on their children to compensate for their own inadequacies and failures. This results in destroyed sibling relationships, and continuous estrangement over years that is rarely, if ever, understood. When these social dynamics cause a person nothing but pain, do you sometimes wonder what you should do? […]Read more "On Letting Go: Part One"
Other than my house exploding from time to time, there are sometimes coincidences within our hearts that are less volatile, but equally remarkable and difficult to explain. Since it is the season and Thanksgiving is in a few days, of course it’s only appropriate to reflect upon my own family’s Thanksgiving stories and traditions. For […]Read more "Grandpa comes out of the closet every Thanksgiving"
Working in a petting zoo has its benefits: you work outside all day; you get plenty of exercise from laborious farm chores; and when you need a break, dozens of friendly fauna await your playful attention. During my initial zookeeper training, the manager said I shouldn’t get too attached to the animals. “These aren’t your […]Read more "The Cruelty and Compassion of Kids: A Zoo Tale"
At the age of 39, my great-grandfather, Arthur, went to the hospital to have his tonsils taken out. I imagine they’d been troubling him often and he just couldn’t stand it anymore. He was a coal freight agent for the Chicago Eastern Illinois Railroad. His wife, Alice, 37, and their two children, ten-year-old June and fourteen-year-old […]Read more "Alice"